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Some days I lose my mind completely. Others, I’ve never known such peace being in a season of stillness with my family. It’s very much a day-to-day question of, ‘how’s this day going to go?’ I forget what it feels like to have extra time for myself or the mental capacity to dream about my business endeavors or the ways I want to see it grow beyond this wildly unpredictable season. But what I have had time for is loving my kids, for getting lost in the chaos and creating something fun out of it, for embracing the moments that we overcome difficulties and trade them for fruit that remains & for accepting that my personal time is at 11pm with my fav snack in a safe house. We’ve watched too much tv, we’ve eaten our weight in bread & burritos (gotta support that local taco shop ya know!) but we’ve played hard, we’ve loved hard & despite difficulties we’ve laughed and we’ve felt safe. We’ve grown together. If that’s what we get out of this then that’s ok with me! Growing with the people I love the most, protecting them & investing in them. Because even if my efforts aren’t specifically directed at myself I’m growing as a mama, I’m becoming more self disciplined and more aware of what’s the most important in this lifetime – my people. .
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#overcomingquarentine #quarantine #choosehappy #realtalk #silverlining #mypeople #lovehard #personalgrowth #growthroughwhatyougothrough #personalstylist #quarentine2020 #quarentinestories #homeschool #growwhereyouareplanted

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Raising a daughter has been one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life, because while raising her I have had the constant challenge to become the woman I hope she desires to emulate & although far from perfect, she has unknowingly pushed me to blossom with growth. I want my Delaney to always know her worth, to stand up for what she believes in unashamed, to love others & be a safe place. I want her to understand she was created with a purpose, to feel worthy, to be confident, to chase after her dreams with grit and grace & ya know what? I’m the female she needs to see embodying those things. I have so much growing to do but I will never stop going after it because she and I, we are both worth it! And YOU are worth it! Women need each other, to grow together, challenge each other to do the hard work and walk through a life of uncertainties knowing full well that they aren’t doing it alone and they’ve got a sisterhood standing beside them. .
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#womensday #internationalwomensday #raisingstronggirls #raisingstrongwomen #realtalk #momlife #momlifebestlife #sandiego #daughter #liveyourvalues #socal #challengeyourself #dotheheartwork

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I don’t love pink. But I sure am wearing a lot of it in this picture! (Happy Vday!!) This obnoxious jacket gave me so much life last winter! It was bright & warm & sassy and all of the things I needed it to be to make me feel happy! Guys, that’s what it’s all about – this life. It’s about living happy and letting it ooze (even though that’s the worst word in the English language) from every facet of our being so we can spread it around and mix it in and let it overpower all the confusion and discord in the world around us. Every day we have a choice to make – to contribute to our grumpy, judgmental world or to stand up for something that creates life & leaves an impact, a legacy of delight & fulfillment. I choose happy! I choose to silence judgements, to embrace differences in people, to wear a baby pink jacket when I feel like it, dang it & to not leave room for comparison or self doubt. I’m worth it and so are you. .
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#choosehappy #happygirl #belight #realtalk #createalifeyoulove #pink #valentinesday #onelife #livehappy #wardrobe #personalstylist #speaktruth #happiness #happywardrobe #style #sandiego #personalstylist

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When you think of your happiest, most confident clothes – what triggers that inward exhilaration for you? Color? Texture? Bold print? Clean lines? Simplicity? There are so many, many things that contribute to our personal style but the most important of them all is how you feel in what you’re wearing! If you only wore what made you FEEL AMAZING then your style would take shape all on its own because confidence would emerge! When we feel frustrated and insecure in our clothes the total opposite happens, we feel unsure & insecure which translates too easily to awkwardness and constant self doubt. We carry ourselves differently and the cycle of self doubt gets fed. If you could wear one thing for the rest of your life (that’s not strictly lounge wear, that’s an obvi one!) what would it be? Does a color come to mind? Fabric? Print? Certain silhouette? Dive further into what it is about that thing that makes you FEEL secure & don’t let people or social pressures make you change your mind. Lean into that thing and start exploring it more! For me, I’d choose tshirts – I stopped telling myself they’re too boring and I started challenging myself to wear them more and style them differently simply because I felt good in them, now it’s a uniform! I feel confident, sexy, secure & totally myself when I wear one that I love! Take off your insecurity outfit and put on your confidence uniform! .
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#personalstylist #personalstyle #wearwhatyoulove #feelconfident #wearconfidence #choosehappy #wardrobestylist #intentionalliving #realtalk #motivation #styleinspo #ootd #outfitinspo #outfits #whatiwore #feelamazing #sandiego #california #sd

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THIS, you guys! Truth! Only a liar can make you feel isolated in a world full of people fighting the same battles as you. Depression, anxiety, divorce, miscarriage, grief, insecurity, self doubt, fear… we’ve ALL experienced something that’s left us broken. Every. Single. One of us. (Yeah, it’s gettin’ real up in here.) The catch is that most of the time we to choose shame and isolation from our brokenness over believing that it doesn’t define us or determine our future. A perfect Insta photo is lovely but it’s too easy to hide behind & we can’t maintain a life that appears beautiful when everything behind the scene is falling apart. It took me a long time to stop feeling shame for miscarrying 3 of my 6 babies. Who told me that was MY fault?! Who says you deserved to be abused? Who said you aren’t good enough to chase after that dream? Those are lies that too commonly take the place of our truths – that we are beautiful, we are desirable, we are strong, we’re fighters, we’re creative & fierce and capable! These truths & lies bleed into every area of our lives including how we dress & carry ourselves. Welcome to my WHY! I don’t believe that any woman should wear clothes that lie to her every single day & tell her she’s not worth looking good and feeling good. Clothes that make her feel unattractive & uninspired. Not when it’s something we can work on gaining control of. Clothes trigger our insecurities or they make us feel confident! Go through your clothes, don’t hold onto the things that keep you feeling uninspired. Save a little money & replace that item with something that makes you feel killer incredible! Even if it’s just one piece at a time, eventually your wardrobe can be a safer place for you. I want that for you with all of my heart! .
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#mywhy #yourstorymatters #lifestory #wardrobestylist #hearttalk #realtalk #depression #anxiety #findingfreedom #style #styleinspo #ibelieve #strongwomen #heartwork #wardrobe #personalstylist #fightforfreedom #womensfashion #truth #yourebeautiful #youmatter

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When you slow the heck down to focus on yourself – not the mom version of you, or wife version, or friend, overworked or chauffeur version but the YOU-est version of yourself, are you getting everything you need? A few months ago I slowed down, practically stopped every busy thought, muted the mental to-do lists, escaped the routine of operating at peek stress levels and asked myself if I was prioritizing my needs as well as I need. The obvious answer is no, the problem is that living that way has become so normalized in our culture. There’s so much self care talk floating around which great, wonderful, fine… accept that’s become an expectation when in reality for so many it’s actually a luxury rarely given opportunity. I don’t have a solution other than to stop, to write down what you need and find the time. Self care isn’t just a bath and glass of wine, it’s getting your heart rate up & drinking enough water, it’s turning off your screens to sit and reflect on your life and identify areas that need more attention. It’s feeding your spirit and drawing closer to Jesus to pull from His grace and peace. It’s saying no when you need to. It’s giving your time and energy to something greater than you because self care isn’t just about us – it’s about becoming the best version of ourselves to pour into others. Of course it should include saunas, coffee, face masks, dancing, hiking & pampering too – YAS queen! So here’s your gentle reminder to prioritize your needs in whatever season you’re in! To be conscious of them & make time for them, you’re worth every ounce of peace they produce. Also, yes I have 3 chins in this picture… what’s it to ya? .
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#selfcare #selflove #prioritizeyourself #priorities #speaktruth #realtalk #youreworthy #chasinglight #hiking #carlsbad #selfmotivation #sandiego

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If you’re looking for a perfectly curated feed you will not find that here! Take this photo for instance – blurry, not posed whatsoever BUT it documents one of the most satisfying ugly laughs of my life! We laughed so hard that we ended up missing our stop because we were distracted and had to ride all the way to the last stop of the route adding 3 hours to our train ride! We were the only 2 on the train with the conductors that graciously (and luckily!!) took us back to our stop so we could get our car! It was both horrifying and one of the best memories of all time. Missing you, our ugly laughs and adventures @kelseyhettinga ❤️ What I want is to be a splash of real in a heavily edited place, to represent myself in a way thats reflects my values and life with accuracy – it’s too easy to get swept up in the faux images of peoples lives. Don’t forget your value isn’t measured by the clarity of your photos, the brands of your clothing or how you appear on IG – if you’re a different person face to face than you are on IG, chances are something is probably not in balance. Trust me, I’m guilty of this stuff too – we all want to feel relevant but we can’t attract our tribe by being a false version of ourselves. So here’s to being me! A happy, ugly laughing Olivia. .
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#uglylaugh #laughtillithurts #laughtillyoucry #lifemoment #realtalk #grandrapids #bff #train #oops #lifeisgood #laughmore #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #beyourself #girltribe #mytribe #attractyourtribe

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Cozy up, I have a story. I had a moment recently where I was riddled with thoughts & shoulds about my life. I realized I was feeling this deep sense of disconnect between my heart and my head. The shoulds in my mind were aggressive while my heart was longing for something entirely different that I just couldn’t put my finger on. Until one evening, while trying to quiet my mind I felt a stirring in my spirit that said, “Olivia, you don’t have to be extraordinary to be loved.” And it was in that moment that I realized I was allowing the perception of my success to outmeasure my worth. This is where I chose to press pause. When our priorities are out of balance and we aren’t pressing into what it’s in our hearts, every fascist of our lives will feel out of balance. It will never be worth sacrificing your peace to try and be accepted because of your status or accomplishments. It’s who we are, how we love & how we live that leaves a splash in the world. @mejuri #mejuri #mejuripartner .
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#personalstylist #wardrobestylist #realtalk #cozyup #hearttalk #prioritycheck #checkyourheart #beyou #youreworthit #selfworth #anxiety #sandiego #california #sweaterweather #sd

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I feel like every post is the first post because I post so infrequently on IG. Are you starting to think the word ‘post’ sounds funny because of overuse? Anyone? Just me? K.
So, let me get down and dirty real quick, there are things you should about me before we take this to second base… I really don’t have a passion for fashion, I love style. I don’t always care about what’s happening on the runways because I care more about what’s happening in your closet and WHY it’s happening. More importantly, how I can help! I love the psychology of style, why we are drawn to certain colors and styles and what triggers our shopping patterns. Enough about that; I love a good belly laugh, the uglier the better! I’ve started probably 4 books over the last year and never, like ever, finish them – is that because I’m not an adult yet? I freaking love to dance, the truth is if you saw how I got down you might feel confusion & ask yourself, is this totally awesome or is she insane? It’s over the top and the best medicine! I’m an enneagram 4 which makes me want to swim upstream while also being your most loyal friend & a little moody mama at times. Family is top of my list, I’d walk away from life’s greatest opportunities to be a better mom & wife. The beauty of that is that I married a man who would encourage just the opposite. I’m a fresh plant lover and have actual anxiety when I see leaves start to brown. I love great skin care but often forget to wash my face before bed, I know, I know. I’m a quality time person and when I’m alone too much I sink into a bit of a self worth funk, it’s one of my daily battles. When I was in 8th grade our childhood home burned down, (it was even more traumatic than it sounds – I’ll share the story soon) the first thing I got out was my friends backpack and the last thing? My bird. I always hated that bird – chill out, it lived! And for way too long after that fire. 😜 Here’s what I’m working on: caring less about what others think & really embracing who I am, all quirks included! Walking outside of my comfort zone to pursue personal grow, finishing those freaking books I’ve started & drinking more water! Your turn!

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What in the?! It seems SO surreal that in just over 3 weeks we will be living on the west coast again. I haven’t had the time to dream about what it might look like for us living in Ca this time around. I don’t just feel like a totally different person since our move to the Midwest, I AM a different person. I’ve had such awe-inducing opportunities here that have left me reeling in gratitude & personal growth. Now more than ever I’ve come to really grasp that time is fleeting and that what I do with my time, my life, is entirely up to me. Every interaction, every step, every opportunity is a choice I have the privilege to explore and grow through! I used to be afraid of the big dreams. The ones that made me ask myself, “who the eff do you think you are Liv!? Why do you think you have what it takes? There’s nothing extraordinary about you.” I know I’m not alone here, guys – what debilitating things have you believed about yourself? Cuz dang, they’re such lies. What once made me feel inferior now lights a fire in my soul, not because I’ve mastered self confidence or I’ve achieved something extraordinary and I have the world at my fingertips… because I understand my design. That I was wired with compassion & tenderness, with gifts not for my own gain but to impact those around me. I was created with a purpose to change the world around me simply by being me! By offering my abilities to help people who need them, fear wouldn’t only hold me but it would steal from those I was created to impact for good. I am very excited about what’s next for this Midwest girl & curious how the Lord will use me. .
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#passion #purpose #madeformore #grandrapidsmi #sandiego #midwest #westcoast #womenoftheword #personalstylist #realtalk #speaktruth #loveyourself #wardrobestylist #mompreneur #whatsnext #dreambig #dreamchaser #personalshopper

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